Saturday, August 25, 2012

Helping a Friend In Need

High School

Over the Years

Everybody remembers those days. Joking around in the halls before class with friends. Racing back to class realizing you drastically over-judged the time you had before the bell rang, and miraculously, the teacher didn't see you sneak in and take a seat. You had your group of friends you have had since forever ago. Coming from a small class of fifty five in my graduating class, we all got to know each other really well. We got to know who we really were, and we all loved each other. For the most part anyway. 

You grew together as a class. You helped each other out if you need help. You did it out of  the fact that you were close.You looked out for each other, because over the years you had become a family. That bond was tested in my high school senior year.

The Incident

Someone had been suspended. Rumors were spreading like wildfire, "Did you hear Zak got suspended? "Yeah he got in a fight with someone! The P.E teacher kicked him out of class and sent him to the principals office!". These were just some of the rumors being spread around. Apparently Zak had been suspended for getting in a fight with a student over something. Zak was known in our school for being extremely open about his sexuality. He was bisexual, and was perfectly comfortable with it and told anybody he met. This got him all sorts of grief from people. People who hid their homophobia and confusion amongst slurs and rude comments to and behind his back. 

People were spreading rumors and talking bad about him more than ever before. All the while I'm thinking in my head, " What happened to our family?" Nobody was standing up for Zak who had simply gotten tired of taking everyone's negative attitude about his sexuality and snapped at a rude comment. He was only as human as the rest of us. My family was starting to fall apart.

History Class 

History class was when some hope for my senior class, as well as a lot of the underclassmen was restored. After hearing so much about Zak and what he had done, I decided to take a stand. I defended an openly bisexual man in front of his peers. The hot button issue that everyone had views on. I had no idea how much support my stand against the obvious homophobic jocks of the freshmen class was going to rally. Fellow seniors, freshmen, juniors and sophomores all stood up in agreement with me. We had all had enough of everyone giving Zak so much grief and demanded that it stop. He was as human as the rest of us and deserved such. As I looked on and saw people openly supporting and displaying their sympathies for Zak did a wayward thought thought cause a massive smile to grace my face. We were a family again. All we needed was a little shove.

Aftermath

People settled their disputes with each other and Zak finally came back to school and people resumed their normal lives. People went back to making fun of each other as they always do. People went back to taking about drama and sports. However, people never looked at Zak or I the same again. 

3 comments:

  1. Louis. I must start by saying coodos to you, and that was a very brave act of you. You risked your own reputation of yourself by standing up for a kid that was always picked on about his sexual orientation. Some people may have made fun of you for standing up for this person with different views, but deep down in them they felt the same way and knew it wasn't right to be treating someone like this just because they were attracted to both sexes. They knew what was right, they just didn't want that to put their 'coolness' per say at risk from his peers, and didn't have the courage to stand up for someone they actually did care for. I really enjoyed this post and I am proud to say that over the short time we have met each other through the HIxson program, I am glad that I have had the chance to get to know you better. We have a lot in common and I enjoy having someone in class with a lot of the same views on me as life. Once again coodos to you for having the courage and for a person who never asked for the crudeness of others, but was just following what he believed in.

    Dalton Peterson

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  2. What you did was amazing. What most people would have done was just sat there and let it happen and not defend him in fear of tainting their reputation, but you risked that and did what most would never do. I really think that we need more people like you to stand up for others that can't do it for themselves.

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  3. Thank you for this post! No matter your side of the issue, standing up for another person took courage and I hope you remember this feeling if you see a situation like this transpire again. Like you experienced, it only took one person (YOU!) to stand up and change the discussion. Way to go and keep up the good work!

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